The Legacy

When my husband, Bob, died very suddenly in January 1994, I received
condolences from people I hadn't heard from in years: letters, cards,
flowers, calls, visits. I was overwhelmed with grief, yet uplifted by this outpouring of
love from family, friends and even mere acquaintances.

One message touched me profoundly. I received a letter from my best friend
from sixth grade through high school. We had drifted somewhat since graduation in
1949, as she stayed in our home town and I had not. But it was the kind of
friendship that could quickly resume even if we lost touch for five or ten
years.

Her husband, Pete, had died perhaps 20 years ago at a young age, leaving her
with deep sorrow and heavy responsibilities: finding a job and raising three
young children. She and Pete, like Bob and I, had shared one of those rare, close,
"love-of- your-life-you-can-never-forget" relationships.

In her letter she shared an anecdote about my mother (now long deceased).
She wrote, "When Pete died, your dear mother hugged me and said, 'Trudy, I don't
know what to say . . so I'll just say I love you.'"

She closed her letter to me repeating my mother's words of so long ago,
"Bonnie, I don't know what to say . . . so I'll just say I love you."

I felt I could almost hear my mother speaking to me now. What a powerful
message of sympathy! How dear of my friend to cherish it all those years and
then pass it on to me. I love you. Perfect words. A gift. A legacy.

Bonnie J. Thomas
"A Cup of Chicken Soup for the Soul"
Editor: Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen & Barry Spilchuk